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Article by Lois Ann Baker
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29 November 2016

Shirley Jones with the book that started it all. Jones is now a certified Conscious Uncoupling coach.

Recovering from a divorce can be devastating. But it doesn't have to be.

Shirley Jones has been certified as a Conscious Uncoupling coach to help people get through the hardest part of a divorce, the aftermath. Conscious Uncoupling is a
five-step process that allows you to move on with your life in a better way, Jones said.

"I heard about this process after I got divorced."

After 36 years of marriage and five children, Jones and her husband got divorced. "I didn't know anything about it before that, although I'm very committed to being peaceful in my nature."

The process of conscious uncoupling is based on a book of the same name by author Katherine Woodward Thomas who then created a coaching certification program for the process.

"I enrolled as a coach after having done the online process by myself and reading the book," said Jones.

"I can attest that it goes much better when you are being coached."

Jones said it is a five-step process to "living happily even after."

"It's how to break up in a whole new way," she said. "Divorce and separation can be very contentious and difficult and heartbreaking. It's an unacknowledged kind of suffering, it's not visible on the outside."

Jones said the process was created to help people get over the heartbreak, give them peace of mind and emotional freedom. The process can be done as a couple, but
with their own separate coaches, or individually.

"It begins with finding emotional freedom," said Jones. It's a decision a person makes because they want to do that in a new way, because they have enough consciousness to know if they don't change something, there are doomed to do it again."

The second step is to reclaim your power in your life. The third is to identify and break the pattern of whatever got you into the particular relationship. The fourth step
is to become a love alchemist and finally, the fifth step is to create your happily even after life.

"The way I like to say it to people, is let's do the steps," said Jones. "You start with an introduction and then the five steps over a six-week program with the understanding
you can integrate the learning. In our community of coaches, the average time someone is with us is from one to three yes."

Jones said an important part of the process is to address the places where you feel victimized.

Jones said couples are even using the process and hiring a coach when they begin to see problems in their relationship.

"So when the time comes for the decision of whether they are staying or going they can prepare their family and friends," she said. "These things don't happen in a vacuum. They affect everybody."

Jones said one of the reasons she chose to become a Conscious Uncoupling coach was because of the children of divorce. Jones was a child of a divorce herself and she
wants to make sure the children who are caught in the divorce don't blame themselves.

"I want them to know it is their fault," she said. "I want their rights to be protected and I want them to come first. That's why I agreed to go public and put myself out there, to speak to this. I will never want any child to go through what I went through ever. There is no need for it. We have the skills, we have tools, and we have resources to do better. We know better, we can do better."

If you are interested in leaning more about Conscious Uncoup contact Jones by phone at 613-330-0443 or email her athelp@shirleyjones.coach.